25 posts tagged “women”

I just noticed that the Thinking Women's group has 480 members.

On the other hand the Thinking Men's group has 5 members...

 No need to explain ....

deflated and abused

Feeling a bit down and badly abused this evening. I wrote a very carefully worded, professional memo to  Mega Boss today about the ongoing IT problems. She agreed with my concerns and said she had many of the same ones herself. She then forwarded my confidential email on to DumboIT but, more upsetting to me, was that she prefaced the whole memo with the sentence : I know FD can at times be emotional and prone to over-exaggeration....

This gutted me because I am very professional at work. I have been able to introduce new processes which have meant we have been able to decrease staff numbers and have them redeployed to other parts of the company. MegaBoss is always telling me that she doesn't have to worry about my area because she knows it runs so well...her excuse for not being involved and ignoring us I know.....we aren't exciting or glamerous, we just do the actual work. I also rarely speak one on one with her...  Anyway I was gutted for a couple of resons. The major one was that it gave DumboIT the perfect excuse for not doing their job and just declaring I am a silly emotive women....

Her words had no real role in what was being discussed and I know that she did it just because she could. It would be funny if it wasn't hurtful, because everyone knows what a Drama Queen she is and how she throws temper tantrums at the drop of a hat, and over reacts to high heaven. That is one reason that no one tells her anything, because she makes things worse usually.

So all she achieved was to kill the last remaining shreds of loyalty and motivation I had. So from now I play by the rules and just go through the motions....

Why would a woman do that to another woman? It was such a put down, especially from another woman. So dismissive, and belittling.

I was upset so shared the email with two colleagues. Bless them they crowned me the Drama Queen and said that they would be my Door Bitches, gatekeeping who entered my realm! Yes, we have to laugh at the stupidity of it all.

Once I would have walked on fire for MegaBoss but as time has gone on I have seen what a shallow, self-seeking woman she is and all that is gone....

and so passed Thursday in the Basement of Discontent

How did you manage to find a second husband? Not that I am in the market for one, but if I was I would have absolutely no idea how to go about findng a new husband. Obviously I am not going to hit the nightclub or pub scene, so how, where? Tell me, tell me.

My sister drove an hour and a half from her home to visit some friends. An hour down the return trip she asked husband to find something in her handbag [she is such a control freak she has to drive even though he is a FAR better driver. He gives in for peace]. He could not find her handbag [pocketbook]. They had to turn around, drive an hour back to the friend, collect the handbag and then drive the 90 minutes home.

WHAT WOMAN FORGETS HER HANDBAG? We are born with a handbag clutched in one chubby hand.. And this is not a one off. She does it on a regular basis. She is so busy trying to control everything around her that she forgets her handbag, her glasses, and everything else she has. If she visits me I always walk around and check my house for her belongings before allowing her to drive away.

But what woman forgets her handbag? Our lives are in our handbag. I don't think she is human. She must have some mutant gene.

Hunger strike medal presented to Letitia Withall by the Women's Social & Political Union] [realia].

The WSPU was founded at the Pankhurst family home in Manchester on 10th October, 1903 by six women, including Emmeline and Christabel Pankhurst, who soon emerged as the group's leaders. The WSPU had split from the non-militant National Union of Women's Suffrage Societies, disappointed at the lack of success its tactics of persuading politicians through meetings had found.

The founders decided to form a women-only organisation, which would campaign for social reforms, largely in conjunction with the Independent Labour Party. They would also campaign for an extension of women's suffrage, believing that this was central to sexual equality. To illustrate their more militant stance, they adopted the slogan "Deeds, not words".

In opposition to the continuing and repeated imprisonment of many of their members, they introduced the prison hunger strike to Britain, and the authorities' policy of force feeding won the suffragettes great sympathy from the public. The Government later passed the Prisoners (Temporary Discharge for Ill Health) Act 1913, commonly referred to as the Cat and Mouse Act, which allowed the release of suffragettes when near to death due to malnourishment, but officers could re-imprison them once healthy. This was an attempt to avoid force feeding.

Anti-flirt club

Alice anit-flirt

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The movie marathon continued today and we finished with License to Wed with Robin Williams/Mandy More. Laughter, happy ending so it met the criteria. I did notice though that her career was being a florist. Of course it was her own business, modern woman that she was, but she was a florist. In some other movie she was a chef.

Has anyone else noticed that in recent movies the women all have jobs like florist or chef? An outsourcing of the domestic. In the 1980s and 1990s all the women in movies seemed to be either some high flying executive, or a lawyer, or a journalist. Something corporate and very professional. Meg Ryan in You've Got Mail, of course owned her own bookshop, but that is a maternal roll as she is the keeper of the literary canon so to speak. Preserving the culture.

What is happening here? Is this our message or Hollywood's? Is it an effort to reinforce the glass ceiling, put the little woman back into the domestic, or is it our choice, merely a sign of the time? Art imitating reality?

To me, it is a bit like the Yummy Mummy label. Where did that come from? What about Yummy Daddy? Or Delicious Daddy or whatever. Why does he get left off the hook when not only does she have to be responsible for the production of a new life, but heck she should keep her figure and every hair in place at the same time. PLEASE!

Is that the sign of this decade - cup caking baking young women? And why are we all acting as though making a cup cake and whacking a mass produced sugar flower on the top is an art form and something we need to coo over? My second cooking lesson in home economics class was cup cakes [or patty cakes, as we called them way back then]. No magic, just basic butter cake.

So, are we being sent back to the domestic, or are we choosing the domestic? Or are we having a foot either side? I just hope we aren't going back to the bad old days when I remember an aunt's in-laws  judging her by the height and lightness of her sponge cake. She had a mental break down at 40 after raising 5 children (including a set of twins which gave her 5 children in 5 years!) because she couldn't maintain the sponge standard and took to preaching  someone's word on street corners for a year or two. Is the end of feminism nigh? 

Let them cook their own cupcakes, I have a life to live!